Part of getting the cobwebs out of my brain and getting my mind back into the light was determining what things I actually want to be doing. Do you find yourself, like me, panicking as you try to fit in everything you just know you should be doing because they’re right and good things to do? Things that healthy, happy, well-adjusted families do? Things that efficient, effective people do?
Yep. I thought so. Me too.
In the end, not only do I NOT do any of those things I feel I ought to be doing, I don’t do anything at all. At least, not what I want to do. I stare at my computer for hours, trying to simulate busyness in the empty hope that it will morph itself into meaningfulness.
Spoiler: it doesn’t.
So I reasoned that if I could at least work out what it is I’d like to be doing, I could commit to getting some of that done, and then I’d achieve some of what I should be achieving, too, since there’s a whole lot of overlap there. I’m rambling a bit, so I don’t know if my logic is coming through. Let me cut the chatter and get straight to the meaty stuff.
Five things I want to do OFTEN:
- Get active: run, dance and climb
- Create: paint, draw, make, build, write
- Work: write, design, strategise, make, imagine
- Grow: listen, care, learn, share, think, read, research and write
As you can see, there’s a lot of overlap here. There are also common goals between what I want to do often and what I want to achieve in my work and with my children. Identifying those common goals allows me to focus my efforts on the things that will cover the most bases and this deliver the most far-reaching results.
I’m distilling this into a practical philosophy of daily being, and it looks something like this:
- Move my body every day (and include as many of my family members as I can)
- Create something beautiful and/or useful every day (and include the girls)
- Read something meaningful, think about it, and record it in writing somewhere (prepare to be blogbarded). Also: share what I’ve learned with the people who mean the most to me, in order to spark discussion and foster understanding.
- Deliver great work for my clients, that helps them achieve their goals.
- Achieve at least three things on my TO DO list (so far, so good).
- Do something creative with my kids (not so good yet … we’re getting there).
- Spend time in prayer and reading God’s Word (this also needs work).
- Move my body.
- Read something meaningful.