When dealing with people, it can be helpful to understand how they see us.
It’s not that we’re trying to change how they see us. We’re not here to change anyone but ourselves, and people’s perceptions are part of who they are … Although we can change what they see. That’s a subject for another day.
Let’s start by considering what people see when they see us.
We tend to be so self-absorbed, thinking every person who ever glances our way is watching us; judging us.
The truth is, for the most part, they’re too busy fearing your judgment to even notice that there’s anything about you for them to judge.
On the whole, people tend to believe that everyone they meet is more confident, more “together”, than they themselves are. While this is typically not the case, it does present a powerful opportunity.
Fake it till you make it.
Since everyone you meet probably assumes that you’re confident and smart and have all your shizz figured out, you may as well act like it’s true. And – who knows? Maybe your brain will believe your actions and, the next thing you know, you really are all confident and figured-out-y. It could happen.
You might even discover that you really do know more than you thought you did … and that your confidence is well-placed.
Besides, what have you got to lose? No one knows any better.