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Want to vs ought to

Part of getting the cobwebs out of my brain and getting my mind back into the light was determining what things I actually want to be doing. Do you find yourself, like me, panicking as you try to fit in everything you just know you should be doing because they’re right and good things to do? Things that healthy, happy, well-adjusted families do? Things that efficient, effective people do?

Yep. I thought so. Me too.

In the end, not only do I NOT do any of those things I feel I ought to be doing, I don’t do anything at all. At least, not what I want to do. I stare at my computer for hours, trying to simulate busyness in the empty hope that it will morph itself into meaningfulness.

Spoiler: it doesn’t.

So I reasoned that if I could at least work out what it is I’d like  to be doing, I could commit to getting some of that done, and then I’d achieve some of what I should be achieving, too, since there’s a whole lot of overlap there. I’m rambling a bit, so I don’t know if my logic is coming through. Let me cut the chatter and get straight to the meaty stuff.

Five things I want to do OFTEN:

  1. Get active: run, dance and climb
  2. Create: paint, draw, make, build, write
  3. Work: write, design, strategise, make, imagine
  4. Grow: listen, care, learn, share, think, read, research and write

As you can see, there’s a lot of overlap here. There are also common goals between what I want to do often and what I want to achieve in my work and with my children. Identifying those common goals allows me to focus my efforts on the things that will cover the most bases and this deliver the most far-reaching results.

I’m distilling this into a practical philosophy of daily being, and it looks something like this:

  • Move my body every day (and include as many of my family members as I can)
  • Create something beautiful and/or useful every day (and include the girls)
  • Read something meaningful, think about it, and record it in writing somewhere (prepare to be blogbarded). Also: share what I’ve learned with the people who mean the most to me, in order to spark discussion and foster understanding.
  • Deliver great work for my clients, that helps them achieve their goals.Be kind to one another

Action steps:

  • Achieve at least three things on my TO DO list (so far, so good).
  • Do something creative with my kids (not so good yet … we’re getting there).
  • Spend time in prayer and reading God’s Word (this also needs work).
  • Move my body.
  • Read something meaningful.



A teaspoon in each hand (it’s all about balance: Sugar & Spice part 4)

Read the first part of this post here. the second part here and the third part here.

Thirdly, we clean and disinfect.

This part of the job is not as much fun. Have you ever done what I do – auto-condimentised a meal, only to find that the chef has a similar palate to yours and there’s already too much salt? It tastes terrible. It stings. If you clean a wound, it can really burn when you add salt. It’s necessary, but you have to grit your teeth and try not to scream.

Ancient cultures used salt to disinfect the umbilical cord of a new born baby, and even today salt is often used for cleaning applications. But it needs to be done with care and gentleness. We need, once again, to speak with grace, speak the truth in love, and study to answer. Even if you know the answer, even if you’re right, even if it’s urgent, is it kind? Will it win souls, or turn away dear friends? Gentleness, patience and love are the keys to speech that is full of grace, seasoned with salt (not drowning in it!).

Staying the course.

The second part of Matthew 5:13 offers a sombre warning: : but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.”

It is possible to lose your savour. The cares and trials of this world weigh us down. Many of think, when we give our lives to our Lord, that it’s plain sailing from here on in. For some unknown reason, in no way based in a literal understanding of scripture, we imagine that God will skip along before us, sweeping our troubles away with His cosmic broom. He doesn’t. Trials come (as the Bible warns us they will, as they do to everyone), and in our bewilderment we lose our faith. Maybe not completely, but it begins to be whittled away. Not only did the sovereign God not prevent the tragedy w may be facing, He seems to be silent too. Has He abandoned us?

Never. His faithful Word assures us of His constant, loving presence in Hebrews 13:5, where He says, “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” Again He talks about our conversation: what we say, how we live. He urges us to be content and at peace, knowing our sovereign Lord is always there for us. When we don’t cling to this promise, when we lose faith and hope in the future, we become bland and tasteless. We offer no life to those we meet. We bring no joy.

What good are we then? Jesus tells us in Matthew that our only use is to firm the path of those who come behind us. To be trampled underfoot. The key is to remember that our feelings are secondary to the facts on which we base our faith.

What facts are these?

  • Jesus is the Son of God, fully God and fully man.
  • He LOVES us.
  • Because we are drowning in the terrifying, turbulent seas of sin, He gave everything, He sacrificed His life for us.
  • He rose again from the dead to give us the victory over death.
  • He never leaves us, and our simple act of belief in this truth guarantees us eternity with our Saviour.

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