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Want to vs ought to

Part of getting the cobwebs out of my brain and getting my mind back into the light was determining what things I actually want to be doing. Do you find yourself, like me, panicking as you try to fit in everything you just know you should be doing because they’re right and good things to do? Things that healthy, happy, well-adjusted families do? Things that efficient, effective people do?

Yep. I thought so. Me too.

In the end, not only do I NOT do any of those things I feel I ought to be doing, I don’t do anything at all. At least, not what I want to do. I stare at my computer for hours, trying to simulate busyness in the empty hope that it will morph itself into meaningfulness.

Spoiler: it doesn’t.

So I reasoned that if I could at least work out what it is I’d like  to be doing, I could commit to getting some of that done, and then I’d achieve some of what I should be achieving, too, since there’s a whole lot of overlap there. I’m rambling a bit, so I don’t know if my logic is coming through. Let me cut the chatter and get straight to the meaty stuff.

Five things I want to do OFTEN:

  1. Get active: run, dance and climb
  2. Create: paint, draw, make, build, write
  3. Work: write, design, strategise, make, imagine
  4. Grow: listen, care, learn, share, think, read, research and write

As you can see, there’s a lot of overlap here. There are also common goals between what I want to do often and what I want to achieve in my work and with my children. Identifying those common goals allows me to focus my efforts on the things that will cover the most bases and this deliver the most far-reaching results.

I’m distilling this into a practical philosophy of daily being, and it looks something like this:

  • Move my body every day (and include as many of my family members as I can)
  • Create something beautiful and/or useful every day (and include the girls)
  • Read something meaningful, think about it, and record it in writing somewhere (prepare to be blogbarded). Also: share what I’ve learned with the people who mean the most to me, in order to spark discussion and foster understanding.
  • Deliver great work for my clients, that helps them achieve their goals.Be kind to one another

Action steps:

  • Achieve at least three things on my TO DO list (so far, so good).
  • Do something creative with my kids (not so good yet … we’re getting there).
  • Spend time in prayer and reading God’s Word (this also needs work).
  • Move my body.
  • Read something meaningful.




We live in a busy, busy world. There is so much clamouring for our attention, that it’s hard to hear a single sound through the hubbub. And if we can’t hear that makes it very hard to listen.

We need to listen.

When we don’t listen, we assume. Our children ask us an innocent question, and we answer something altogether unrelated. We receive an instruction, and do something different. We read God’s Word, but we miss His message.

When we love, we act. When we believe, we act. Our actions speak volumes about our hearts and minds, and if what we’re listening to is wrong, how we behave will also be wrong. We will be hurtful and mean. Thoughtless, and unkind. We will undermine the hope and confidence of others. When we choose to listen to negative and terrifying things, we will be afraid and overwhelmed – too scared to take action, or inclined to run away from where we need to be. When we listen to the filth of the world, we in turn become filthy. Our mouths spew garbage into our homes, and into our lives. Our actions betray teh decay we’ve allowed in.

When we listen to the lies of the devil and the lies we tell ourselves, we begin to hate and cease to love. We become suspicious, doubting the motives of those we used to love and trust. We stop enjoying fellowship with God’s people and begin to look on them with contempt instead.

Why would we choose this life of pain, deceit and suspicion, when we have a Way of love, truth and joy so clearly laid out for us, so easily available to us? All we need to do is to listen to the tender words of our Saviour as He calls us to Himself.

John 14:1 “Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.”

John 14:6 “6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.”

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