Home business, home education and health challenges: what makes us tic?

Don’t Change

They say he’s too quiet.
They say she’s too inquisitive.
They say he’s too energetic.
They say she’s too sensitive.

They say these things thinking it will help,
But it doesn’t really.
It only causes worry and the pressure to conform.
The truth is, changing would be a tragedy.

Because when they say “too quiet,”
I see introspection.
Don’t change, thoughtful one.
You’re gonna bring quiet wisdom to the chaos.

Because when they say ”too inquisitive,”
I see problem solving.
Don’t change, little thinker.
You’re gonna bring answers to the toughest questions.

Because when they say “too energetic,”
I see vitality.
Don’t change, lively one.
You’re going to bring love and laughter to desperate times.

Because when they say “too sensitive,”
I see heart.
Don’t change, deep feeler.
You’re going to bring compassion to hurting souls.

They might say change is needed.
But I ask that they look a little deeper and observe a little longer.
From where I stand, these individuals are just as they should be:
On their unique path, bringing the world exactly what it needs to thrive.

Don’t change, extraordinary one.
You’re gonna light this place up.

© Rachel Macy Stafford 2014

Come as you are

Come as you are.

Come with your hair uncombed.
Come with your missing two front teeth.
Come with your hyperactivity.

Come with your mispronounced words.
Come with your head in the clouds.
Come with your warts that cover both knees.

Come with your inability to sit still.
Come with your incessant questions.
Come with your fidgety hands.

Come with your outside-the-box thinking.
Come with your painfully shy smile.
Come with your voice too loud.

Come with your loneliness.
Come with your scars.
Come as you are.

Come just as you are.

You probably think I’m doing you a favor by opening my arms to you. But that is not the case. I am the one who is about to be blessed by the not-so-obvious gifts within you—the gifts other people don’t see because they fail to look past the surface.

Come as you are, I say.

Come here and let me see that light within you.

And let me tell you how beautiful it is.

© Rachel Macy Stafford 2014

Goal-setting: step 1

In as much as this blog is a personal log of my journey, I’m making a note here of the first thirty day goal challenge I’m undertaking. It’s a fairly simple and startlingly obvious one. It goes like this:

Fit my life into the time I have available.

Practically, here’s how it plays out:

  1. Decide what’s important.
  2. Do it.
  3. Do the rest in the time that’s left.

So, what’s important? I’m so glad you asked.

I’ve identified three things:

  1. Sleep
  2. Exercise
  3. Time with my family

Actually, that’s probably in reverse order. But the thing I get the least of right now is sleep, so I’m working on fixing that first.

Captain’s Log Stardate Last Thursday Night (18 September 2014) – Started sleep experiment. (Just so that I can come back in a month and know that it’s been a month, and check on my progress. Ya know).

Yesterday’s post dealt with refocusing the emotional energy around contentment and its lack into something positive.

Matt. 12:34 – “For out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.”

Whatever we fill our hearts with, comes pouring out into our lives.

The video I shared with you describes the process. You need to know what you wish to achieve with this one beautiful, fragile, incredible life you’ve been given, then focus your energy on getting it. When doubts and fears arise, as they do and will and must, gently and compassionately guide your thinking back to your goal. Create as clear and defined a visual image of that goal as you possibly can. Imagine it from all angles: complete and achieved. Use that strong image to replace the dark cloud of doubts trying to hold you back from achieving it.

Prov. 29:18 – “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

As I listened to that for the first time, I realised a startling truth: I had no idea what it is that I truly want.

No wonder I can’t achieve any goals: I have none!

I’m literally headed nowhere, because I’m aiming right at it.

It took nearly a week (which, yes, is not all that long), to identify what I want to do with my life. But now I know.

I want to tell people’s stories.

Andrew Stanton, in his enchanting TED talk on the art of telling stories, shares this insight:

“Frankly, there isn’t anyone you couldn’t learn to love once you know their story.”

How very true that is.

Our biblical mandate is to love others, and what better way to facilitate that than to share their myriad fascinating, spell-binding tales?

So now it’s time to get started, to master the art of the Storyteller.

A little while ago you may have seen me ranting away about how impossible it is to be joyful while trying to eke out a living on a shoestring budget.


I’ve mentioned before about how I’ll start a blog with good intentions, then descend slowly into a narcissistic spiral of self-pity and misery, and eventually shut it all down.

It’s a little bit juvenile. *Blush*

I realised I need a brain reset.

Proverbs 23:7 – “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he”

As long as I keep thinking of myself as an impoverished, helpless victim of my circumstances, that’s precisely what I’ll be. My Father is the owner and creator of all things, and abundantly wealthy. He promises to meet my needs.

Essentially, this means I have what I need, since He is faithful. I just either haven’t realised it, or I have squandered it. Knowing that I have what I need makes me more mindful, more aware. Living a life of abundance in the peace of this certainty makes me more productive and fruitful.

Here are some interesting thoughts on the subject, that are really helping to focus my personal growth:


Goldilocks and her Monsters

There are monsters in your closet.
It’s true.
They’re your closest friends, and you are not afraid of them.

I love that about you.

Today you invested all of your body and mind,
for most of the afternoon,
in overcoming your fears.

I was awed.

And you won: the fear is yours now.
You own it.
It does not own you any longer.

Each day you learn more about yourself,
And more about us -
These strange creatures, looking in.
We gawk, like visitors to the zoo,
at the amazing creature behind the bars.

But who is really caged?

The exquisite, tow-headed bird, mastering the power of flight?

Or we small-minded pedants,
with our limited vision of the universe,
trying so hard to measure you – to understand you -
with our utterly inadequate tools.

I love the rages.
I love the calm.
I love the monsters who cause you no fear.
I love the fears which come without monsters.
I love watching you navigate these roiling waters.
I love seeing all the treasure you discover in these deeps.

I love you.
All of you.
Darling you.

my little girl

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